Can dietary changes boost your health?
In late January 2016, I found myself in a health dilemma. I had been on an antibiotic for nine weeks, with no results. The specialist wanted me to continue for another six weeks on the off-chance the antibiotic would work.
But being on the antibiotic had messed up my digestive system, and I was uncomfortable and in constant stomach pain despite severely curtailing what I ate and taking constant doses of probiotics.read more
Myth 6: I can’t function without my To-Do list
Yes, you can! Scary as it seems, the world won’t fall apart. I should know.
Since I was 6 years old, I’ve been a prodigious list maker. I was an early adopter of every to-do software, and as my lists got longer, with more projects involving others too, I started creating sophisticated Excel spreadsheets.
Myth 5: I don’t have time for breaks, let alone vacations!
The reality is that you do.
Our best ideas rarely come to us at our desks or in meetings. Instead, they come to us when on a walk, in the shower, before, during or after meditation – and on vacations. Simply put, all the times when disconnected from work!read more
Most people have a hard time saying NO to the many requests for help that come their way. They don’t want to appear rude. Dr. Vanessa Bohns, assistant professor of management sciences at the University of Waterloo in Ontario, says. “One of our most fundamental needs is for social connection and a feeling that we belong. Saying NO feels threatening to our relationships.”read more
Myth 3: I need to plan my work first, then the rest of my life
Once upon a time, planning life before work would have been heresy to me, as it might be to many of you who are work and career focused. But I would STRONGLY advocate taking a fresh calendar, and planning and blocking out the really important things.
We often get caught up in “putting out fires” at work. In fact, when consulting to and observing senior and middle level executives and managers, I often remark that we all missed our calling: we make superb fire-fighters! But how often do we step back and examine why we have so many fires, deadlines that creep up, emergencies, and mistakes we are fixing? Not often!read more
Myth 2: I can do everything myself, because I am smart, gifted, and talented
The reality is that you can’t. At least not well! We can only juggle so many balls before one one them comes crashing down. Ensure that it isn’t the glass balls that once shattered, rarely bounce back well: health; relationships; and friendships are all glass balls in my opinion.
I’ve been posting to my blog since September 2013, but this year, mid-way through the summer, I felt I was running out of creative steam. So I decided to take a temporary break, and recoup my creative energy. It’s incredible what happens when we decide to step away from something. Even if it’s what we love to do. New ideas come up, there is time for them to gel, and time to try new things.read more
In a recent post, I outlined how fear seeps into us over time, from when we are born to different stages of our lives. I also examined how people have fear of failure and success, and that this can often paralyze us from moving ahead in our lives.
So how do we come to grips with our fears, and learn to embrace our fears, because only in doing so can we get to our most challenging goals?
To make progress in all aspects of our lives, if there is one HUGE impediment that we all need to address, it is FEAR (aka False Expectations Appearing Real). Let’s take a look at how life progresses for most people. When we are born, we have no fear. Observe young children. They will want to climb over any obstacle in their path, touch everything, and, in short, do anything, because they have no fear.read more
What do I mean by a blind spot? Quite simply, something that’s right there, in front of or around us, that we can’t see. But others can, usually quite easily. Some examples from the business world. Ford and the Pinto; Enron and falsifying financial results; subprime mortgage lenders who were selling the equivalent of Florida swamp land. All were mired in ethical disasters because of blind spots.read more
In my last post, I offered to share the story of how one person went from intention to results – and how you can too, in a few empowering steps. Here is the story. In April 2014 my spouse, Narmin, decided to start a scholarship foundation to help bright young women in the developing world break the cycle of poverty and become tomorrow’s leaders, by providing them access to their dream of a university education.read more
All of us have goals we intend to achieve. These could be career goals, business goals, health goals, relationship goals, or even de-clutter goals. Some people seem to achieve these with relative ease, others struggle mightily. Some people can sustain these changes, others fall off the wagon relatively quickly. I have always been fascinated by what differentiates success from lack of success.read more
Life brings us many joys, and some inevitable disappointments. When things are going well, we are keen to take responsibility for successful outcomes. But when things are not going well, what do we do? Do we also take responsibility – or blame other factors? Think about every key area of your life. Your career/work/business; your finances; your health and wellness..read more
I’ve often seen people struggle with finding work, progressing in their careers or launching their business. Let’s assign these folks to Group 1. And at the same time, I’ve seen people succeed at all three. Let’s assign them to Group 2. What’s the differentiating factor? Group 1 is focused outwardly. They have clear goals, they are taking action, they are working hard. But results are less than ideal.read more
Many people try to resolve challenges they might be facing on their own. But is that really the best way, especially if the challenges are significant? For years I did the same. I would hunker down, dig deep within myself, and attempt to solve any challenge personally. Sometimes it worked, but at great cost or it took very long. At other times, my approach failed. But still, I would not ask for or accept help…read more
When we start something new, we often encounter resistance, and it is easy to give up before getting to our goal or destination. Think of it this way. Imagine you have a car whose battery is weak and has stopped just before a hill. You put it in neutral, and try and push it to the top of the hill. It can be difficult to do, especially if you have a big car. So you enlist the help of family, friends or bystanders.read more
Have you ever waited for “the right time” to start something? It could be a new project, getting fit, losing weight, a new job, a new relationship, or anything else. Why do people wait? The reasons they usually give are that they are too busy; or that there is a holiday/celebration/event coming up; or that they can’t afford it; or even that the stars are not aligned!read more
Should we focus on achieving goals – or developing habits? With my constant focus on the importance of goal setting, this question may sound sacrilegious. It isn’t. The simple answer is that BOTH are important, because habits help you achieve goals. A habit is something you do consistently, such that you don’t even think about it – for example brushing when we wake up, or flossing regularly, or getting dressed for work, or wishing loved ones, etc…read more
ve written before about how every professional athlete visualizes success over and over. A recent article showed how surgeon trainees who mentally practised prior to complex simulated surgery, and those who didn’t, showed a striking difference. And Dr. Norman Doidge, author of The Brain That Changes Itself, talks about how visualizing can help heal..read more
Last week, I shared with you a very high risk choice that my spouse made last year in order to achieve her dream of empowering young women to become tomorrow’s leaders. She had to set aside some key limiting beliefs she discovered she had been carrying, she took action and she started The Spark of Hope Foundation. She recently shared with me 20 factors that…read more
All day long, we’re faced with choices. Do I stay indoors because it’s cold – or do I bundle up and go for a walk? Do I apply for that new job – or play it safe and stay put? Do I grab an unhealthy snack – or do I wait a bit to get home and eat a healthy meal? These choices, big and small, define the results we have in our lives. Last year, after leaving her position as CEO of an educational foundation…read more
The New Year is a priceless opportunity! Forget the past year. Forget your age and what could’ve or should’ve been or done. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. If you’d really like to keep all your promises; achieve your dreams; make the life changes you want; have zero regrets at the end of your life; and be remembered for meaningful legacies, then the time to start taking action is TODAY.read more
Last week, I suggested you might want to reflect on five key questions as 2014 draws to a close. Which of your goals did you achieve? Which did you not achieve? Why do you think that is the case? How do you feel about your achievements? Are you glad, mad, sad, ashamed or afraid? What different perspectives might serve you better? What will you do differently in 2015, so that you achieve and exceed what you set out to accomplish?read more