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In a recent post, I outlined how fear seeps into us over time, from when we are born to different stages of our lives.

I also examined how people have fear of failure and success, and that this can often paralyze us from moving ahead in our lives.

So how do we come to grips with our fears, and learn to embrace our fears, because only in doing so can we get to our most challenging goals?

Below I have listed some common fears. You may have one or more of these, or you may have some other fears.

Take a blank piece of paper. List YOUR top ten fears (in order). Be candid with yourself. That’s it for now!

1. Animals (including insects, mice, snakes & spiders)
2. Change
3. Commitment
4. Confrontation
5. Darkness
6. Death
7. Dependence
8. Enclosed Spaces
9. Failure
10. Heights Rejection
11. Ill-health
12. Loneliness
13. Losing control
14. Losing independence
15. Losing love
16. Natural disasters
17. Not measuring up
18. Old age
19. Other people’s opinions
20. Poverty
21. Responsibility
22. Success
23. War

Keep this list handy: as you learn how to embrace your deepest fears, you will become unstoppable.

How do I know? Because I see it happen every day as I hear from people who work through their fears! After 12 years of seeing this, I am supremely confident that this new thinking will work for you too.

You might be thinking: can one really get over deep seated fear? Well, two years after I completed the (terrifying) CN Tower Edgewalk (see https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3atY1aTBH8), I was hiking in BC, near Radium Hot Springs with my spouse. We decided to hike to an area where there were hoodoos (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hoodoo_(geology). To get a better image, I went right to edge of one – see photo below – much to the deep consternation of my wife, who implored me to get off this sandy outcrop and get back to “safety”!

Me? I was having a great time taking pictures, peering a long way down, and never once thought of my fear of heights, something I had lived with all my life.

So YES, it is possible to get through one’s fears! The rewards that often lay on the other side of fear are immeasurable.