How do YOU go about conquering your fears? I’d love to hear your stories. Here’s how I went about doing it.
In January 2013, as I was leading a workshop, I shared with participants how the four letter F-word – FEAR – so often subconsciously inhibits us from achieving our goals. As the group worked on their top 10 fears (and the beliefs and behaviours related to these fears), I thought hard about fears I still had.
The first one was getting a tattoo, which I got a few months ago – (pain, needle phobia, and the possibility of infection, in case you are wondering about my fear!) – after debating getting one for 10 years. Go figure!
In July 2013, I chose to conquer my huge fear of heights by participating in the CN Tower Edgewalk. Only 356m/1,168ft above the ground! This was Fear 2 of 5: previously, even climbing to the roof of a house was petrifying!
What did I learn? That F.E.A.R. is truly False Expectations Appearing Real. Apart from one moment of utter, total, sheer panic at the start of the Edgewalk, when I desperately wanted to get off that narrow deck, I told myself that I would be ok, that I needed to trust the engineering, and that since no one had fallen off the Edgewalk yet, I was hardly going to start a trend (at least I prayed I wasn’t!).
I also learned that once you conquer a fear in one area of your life, you can use your new fear-busting muscle to make other life changes that you’ve not been stepping up to. I made one such huge change in my business within three weeks of the climb, which I am confident will pay off well.
I was very glad I stepped up to my fear. My gratitude to the many close friends, and the workshop participants, who encouraged me to confront this fear head on!
Would you do this? Check out the video to get a sense of what it felt like so high up. I’d love to hear from you – just drop me a line at firstname.lastname@example.org.